Morphing into the light….

As the cocoon began to slit open…the emerging butterfly began her fight to push out of her darkness and into the beautiful sunshine of a life full of wonder and adventure and flight …

I have read that if there is help in opening the cocoon, in any way, the butterfly will die. It is difficult to watch those we care about struggling. It’s especially hard when we believe that we could help in some way. Learning to just stand aside and offer advice only when it’s sought rather than just jumping in and trying to fix things is quite an adjustment. What is referred to as enabling always felt like helping. I have come to learn that in actuality it is extremely harmful. There is a crippling effect on the person rather than a freeing effect.

Boundaries that allow others to sort through their own problems and challenges must be put into place. To learn to ask if that person would like to hear what we see that could help them is a step in the right direction. Most humans are wired to want to help; however, there are those of us who cannot seem to understand that some people quite simply do not want our help. Like an obstinate young child determined to do things on their own they need to fall in order to learn to upright themselves and move forward. This is a healthy thing for people to do to find their own way❤️

I am the classic enabler. Intuitively disposed to read people’s hearts and feel their hurts and needs almost personally. Feeling that I know what they need but putting out that boundary that says to just zip it closed and wait. That I just may not know what’s best for another and it’s ok. No longer do I feel like I’ve let someone down because I couldn’t help in some way. To let others be and live their own life without interference is a good thing, Like that butterfly they need to fight out of their darkness and goo to spread those beautiful wings and take flight ….,

This butterfly has finally burst out of the dark and taken flight with wings unfurled …to where I’m not completely sure..and that’s ok too🦋🦋but it is full of wonder, adventure and flight..this freedom to unabashedly soar….